Ding Dong Vs. The Rat Race
Let me first premise this post by saying I am talking in terms of the general public. Of course there are always the outliers who jet-set from place to place and not really affected by economic hardship;) see: Orange County.
Lately I've been thinking a lot about common measures of success and fulfillment (as it appies to countries on the whole). It's a really interesting debate. Those who have traveled to areas of the world that are "poor" monetary, yet "rich" in culture, family, religion, etc. often raise an eyebrow in their economics class when the professor starts talking about Standards of Living tiers in "GDP/capita" rates. It's like when I spent one Friday afternoon laying in the sun, in the heart of Budapest on Margaret Island, listening to beautiful classical music, GDP per capita WHAT? Suddenly, the poor unemployed guy next to me, yeah that one kissing on that beautiful girl with a beer in his hand, well his life didn't seem so bad...
But I think Digs' email drives home my point a lot better. Yesterday he had me laughing..haha..only Digs..
"I have a buddy, crazy ol' Ding Dong who lives on Tioman island, wakes up on Sunday morning and starts drinking / singing / and motor biking at the same time. It's like Tom Cruise's "Cocktail" to the nth degree. The guy is broke as sh*t but has more fun than Trump on TV saying "you're fired."
Are we really just being naive romantics or are we perhaps missing the boat? An interesting POV comes from Robert Pirsig. He writes:
"Its sometimes argued that there's no real progress; that a civilization that kills multitudes in mass warfare, that pollutes the land and oceans with ever larger quantities of debris, that destroys the dignity of individuals by subjecting them to a forced mechanized existence can hardly be called an advance over the simpler hunting and gathering and agricultural existance of prehistoric times. But this agrument, though romantically appealing, doesn't hold up. The primitive tribes permit far less individual freedom than does modern society. Ancient wars were committed with far less moral justification than modern ones. A technology that produces debris can find, and is finding, ways of disposing of it withouth ecological upset. And the school-book pictures of primitive man sometimes omit some of the detractions of primative life- the pain, the disease, famine, the hard labor needed just to stay alive. From the agony of bare existence to modern life can be soberly described as upward progress, and the sole agent for this progress is quite clearly reason itself."
So maybe the rat race and jobs isn't so bad after all? Or maybe it is? I don't pretend to have answers. When Saki was over a couple of weeks ago we had an interesting discussion about GDH/capita. The Gross Domestic Happiness (or Gross National Happiness) of a country. It's an interesting concept although I've yet to see how it's actually measured and if anyone actually cares. Maybe that's the problem, it must be difficult to measure! But certainly, something other than money, education, life expectancy, (e.g. the normal measuring sticks) etc. could be used. It reminds me of Drew's blog about a place having "soul". I don't know how to describe it, but you know it when you see it.
Well, I really don't have a lot to say about the topic, I'm still bouncing thoughts around in my head. I'm was always struck when I saw poor Mexicans working in the US for low wages. Why would you ever leave your culture and family (extended) to have such a tough life? I guess it boils down to providing a better life for your family..and maybe the returns on your investment won't come this generation, but perhaps your children's generation...and I guess in that sense, it makes more sense. But, as we all know the grass is always greener on the other side, and we should always, be careful for what we wish for. With that, I will offer these parting words to all the Turks dreaming of better days in Germany: Twirling Dervishes Aren't that Bad!


16 Comments:
Aren't you Mr.Smarty-pants? By George, i think you figured out the secret of life!
Well, HAPPINESS is a hard concept to define (see: http://www.bhutanstudies.org.bt/seminar/0402-gnh/GHN-papers-1st_18-20.pdf) - and it's different by cultures too. For example, I could translate "happiness" in Japanese in different ways:
- "shiawase" = "peaceful state of happiness"
- "yorokobi" = "jovial, uplifting emotion"
The connotation of what is considered as "happiness" is differs by national cultures too, to say the least.
And then, there's the individual differences. Happiness to you could be traveling to a developing country and making a connection with the locals - and happiness to me could be the doors that open up with new technology making its way into developing countries. Or it could as well be having a great time together on the beach with your closest friends.
I know that we share some common hapinesses (a more peaceful world, beach & booze, good company, etc.), but we also like things in slightly different angles. Quantitatively, our beach fun bash could be a 10 for you and a 9.5 for me. We just feel happiness in different degrees (and that's also if we took a slice out of a moment in time - happiness can be dynamic too).
The democratic government in Bhutan is determined to quantify "happiness" as the nation's asset, but I somehow lean towards the opinion that measureing happiness as wealth is a wasted effort. Why not perceive and appreciate such emotions for what they are rather than trying to define them? Hearing anecdotes about Ding Dong or the unemployed man with the beautiful girl in Budapest open our eyes more than looking at graphs and datas - the key lies there, I believe.
2:11 AM
Saki...
Pls move down to S. Cali so we can talk about this kind of stuff in person! You'd double the aggregate IQ down here.. for real!
9:24 AM
Let's not be miserable in our pursuit of happiness.
9:47 AM
I saw this one on a beachhouse in Newport Beach, "Don't Analyze Your Pleasures"..interesting approach..
And you bring up an interesting point Dody.."don't be miserable"..it's so American! Everything has to be happy, happy, happy..personally, I think a little bit of miserableness is good for everyone..esp in a society that centers itself around material wealth and stuff that's gonna break down in 5 years...sorry, im really hungover today:)
10:09 AM
moved down to SoCal? Why don't you move your arse up to Northern California - it would be 'hella tight'.
Dody, I like the way you think. I think I struggled with that demon half my life (and will probably continue to do so, on and off). If I may be so bold, Drake seems to be going through that exact struggle (other than the hangover).
10:43 AM
i'm struggling, saki..STRUGGLING.
11:00 AM
struggle..it's such a funny word. struggle. it sounds like snuggle, but yet, its completely opposite in meaning. unless youre snuggling next to digs, then its a struggle. hmm..
11:02 AM
My point is this, it's hard to be happy if you are constantly worrying whether you are happy or not.
It's like trying to worry weather you are breathing or not.
and there's nothing kill your current happiness faster than a desire to be happier.
1:26 PM
I think if someone ate their own head that would kill their happiness faster.
10:24 PM
the fault here is our autodeterministic culture: you are responsible for your own happiness.
i propose that we throw happiness out the window and hope to be more fortunate; but only hope, because you can't work to create good luck.
the spanish word for 'happy' comes from the latin felix: fortunate.
10:34 AM
yes, it is a struggle to snuggle next to digs. he takes your blanky away and you end up with a dozen mosquito bites.
my struggle is this: I can't be 100% happy when I know others are suffering. but it's not like you can change the fortune of others, because it's not your responsibility nor your business. Therein lies the struggle.
3:09 PM
i think i share saki's dilemna. because, you could be doing something
4:32 PM
So felix the cat is happy? Is he gay?
11:09 PM
I really enjoyed reading everyone's comments.
But I believe that happiness lies in the utter belief that destiny is written, and we should trully appreciate all the small things we take forgranted, you are reading now - with eyes that see, you can hear, walk, taste, etc..... all material things equal nothing when you die.
Some verses from the Quran say - Believe that it could always be much worse, that we should all take care from hating something that is good for us, or loving something that is bad for us. & for all the bad things that happen to us in our life, if we knew what it replaced - we would be satisfied.
I enjoyed reading this post Paul. Well said my friend. kisses
8:20 AM
Digidy, why do you even open your mouth or begin to type?
Saki, I think we can agree that it's a struggle, but we wouldn't want it any other way. As much as it sounds self-centered, it's also something we can work toward (goals, dreams, etc.).
Nermeen, thanks for your comments, hun! I hope you are recovering okay!!
12:55 PM
Drake, we're all masochists at heart. We like the struggle - no pain, no gain (spiritually).
Jesse caught me stumbling on my own words - yes, we COULD be doing something. You always seem to find the flaws in me, amigo.
Current read: 'The Art of Happiness' by His Holiness the Dalai Lama. Interesting way to slip into Buddhism through Western thoughts. More comments on this book will follow on my blog.
1:38 PM
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